You’re Not Stuck, Forgotten, or Left Behind. Here’s What’s Really Happening (and What to Do Next)

A 4-minute reset for the season that makes you question everything.

I’ve found stillness in sitting and enjoying a cup of tea lately. This is Lavender London Fog Tea, made at home.

Let’s be real. Nobody warns you about this part of the journey — the part where everything feels like it’s falling apart.

One minute, life is rolling along just fine.
The next, bills are higher than ever, work is draining, your confidence is shot, maybe your clothes don’t fit the same, or you’ve just been hit with something way heavier — a diagnosis, a loss, a setback you didn’t see coming.

It feels like you’ve been forgotten.

Like you’re out here on your own, and the things you were once so sure about suddenly have no traction.

And in those moments, the temptation is real: to spiral, to grab control anywhere you can, or to give up altogether.

But here’s the truth: this is not the time to crash out.

This is the part no one talks about — the part where your only job, on the road to building your dreams, is to hold steady.
To lock-in.
To be still.

What “Being Still” Actually Means

And no, I don’t mean sit on the couch and stare at the wall (though if that’s your version of stillness for a day, go off).

Being still is about not scrambling for control where you don’t have any. It’s choosing to double down on the things that actually keep you grounded instead of letting chaos run the show.

For me, being still means getting creative with my hands. It means journaling, reading, moving my body in ways that release tension, showing up for my community, and alternating between blasting DMX and Israel Houghton, at times lol!

For you, it might look completely different — gaming, walking, meditating, cooking, a phone call, or just sticking to one daily thing that reminds you, “I’m still here.”

The point is: stillness isn’t nothing. It’s your quiet anchor while the rest of the storm plays out.

5 Prompts to Help You Find Your Stillness (Without Overcomplicating It)

If you’re in that messy middle right now, grab a notebook (or the notes app on your phone) and walk through these 👇🏾
You can do these in less than 10 minutes!

1. What’s one thing I can do today that always makes me feel a little more like myself?
   (Think: putting on a playlist, making your favorite coffee, taking a ten-minute walk.)

2. Where am I wasting my energy trying to control something I can’t?
   (Call it out. Write it down. Then ask yourself what it would feel like to set it aside for now and try it.)

3. What’s one tiny habit I could repeat this week that would help me feel steadier?
   (Not a whole lifestyle overhaul — maybe it’s drinking water before coffee, going to a group X class, or writing one line in a journal at night.)

4. When was the last time I slowed down and it actually worked in my favor?
   (Remind yourself you’ve been here before and you made it through.)

5. If “stillness” in this season were just one thing, what would mine be?
   (Keep it simple. Reading before bed, stretching in the morning, calling a friend — nothing fancy, just yours.)

Here’s the Thing

This season may feel like nothing’s happening, but don’t be fooled. You’re not invisible. You’re not stuck. You’re not left behind.

You’re in the part of the story where the ground is being shifted underneath you — where things are lining up in ways you just can’t see yet.
This 👏🏾 is 👏🏾 normal 👏🏾.

So, your job isn’t to figure out the whole future. Your job, right now, is to be still — whatever that means for you — and let that carry you until the fog lifts. 🖤

With Love,
Ambyr